Don’t Panic, It’s Organic!

With the rise of artificial connections nowadays, people are longing for something authentic. From what we eat to who we meet, we crave what feels real. That’s why love has also found itself in the soil of sincerity, and people began talking about the so-called “organic encounter.”

In the farming of romance, this seed of love is being wished to sprout only in untainted ground, nourished not by algorithms but by coincidence.

Swiper, No Swiping!

With today’s digital era, love often begins with a thumb movement. Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have become the modern avenue for matchmaking. A swipe right could mean interest, attraction, or sometimes, just plain curiosity. Yet in those playful bios and curated photos lies a growing unease…

Many feel that dating apps have turned affection into mere automation, treating people like options and making romance feel more like a transaction than a valuable connection.

Users complain that it’s harder now to find something genuine. As the matchmaking starts, conversations fade instantly after two messages of saying “hi,” and intentions are often blurred between those “looking for love” and those who are just simply “looking for the night.” This disillusionment has given rise to a new kind of romantic ideal — the organic encounter; a belief that true love should blossom outside the online realm,  making it unplanned, unscripted, and bound by destiny.

“Everything’s Static, Let’s Try Organic!”

Now that dating apps have become static in people’s blooming love stories, they started searching for an alternative approach where love isn’t curated but rather, found. People romanticize the idea of bumping into a stranger in a coffee shop, reaching for the same book in a library, or locking eyes in crowded places like concerts or cinemas. To them, these are not coincidences but signs of fate and a testament that love can still be serendipitous in a world dictated by swipes and matches.

Some even suggest expanding your world to meet your “organic one.” By trying to join organizations, attending seminars, or even going to events alone, maybe somewhere between those casual interactions, destiny might finally sit beside you.

This organic encounter highly mirrors what the dating setting of this generation is missing. That thrilling uncertainty — the mystery of not knowing who you’ll meet next, without having to scroll through a pile of names first.

But here’s the catch: even “organic” can come with hidden preservatives…

Some “Organic” May Still Be “Synthetic”

Even the most spontaneous encounters can still be superficial. Attraction often begins with what’s visible, and in the case of this “organic encounter,” people argue that it seems to happen only to those deemed as conventionally attractive. Taking it into account, fate, it seems, still has a type.

And if we’re being honest, the risk remains the same. The person you meet at a bookstore might not be any less problematic than the one you matched with on Bumble. We must also consider that people are driven by social dynamics — they wear disguises, rehearse their charm, and hide their flaws, whether online or in person. A first impression, after all, is only the surface level of a much deeper sea.

Therefore, authenticity isn’t just tied to where you meet someone, but how you both choose to stay real once you do.

Panic Loving

“Ang laki na ng nagastos ko hindi ko pa rin nararanasan ‘yang organic encounter na ‘yan!”

Maybe that’s where we get it wrong — we panic in pursuit of something that’s supposed to be natural. Love isn’t a fruit you can force to ripen. It takes time, warmth, and, true to its nature, a bit of uncertainty.

So don’t panic if you haven’t met “the one” in a café or if your love story began with a swipe. What matters isn’t how you met, but how you love — whether you nurture it with honesty, patience, and purity.

And whenever that heart finally begins to pump, there’s nothing to panic about. Because what makes love truly organic isn't the spark that started it — but the courage to grow it into something grounded.